stubs - 
Button Buck
idaho
 | | 11/14/2007 10:22 PM |
| I've been having problems with this kid at school who thinks i shouldn't be mad about him slaping my girlfriends behind so he wants to fight. I was supposed to fight him Monday but I didn't so he thought we would Tuesday but I just ignored him and then he tried again today this time he was more forceful and yellig at me and my two friends and my girlfriend. Do you think I should have just laid him out or keep trying to ignore him. I want to fight him so bad except for the consiquences he tries to get you to throw the first punch so he can claim self defence but I dont want to get suspended and not be there to stand up for my girl if he decides to try something else the other possible is I have friends that hang out near her if I'm not there and she knows why they hang around, The last option is I can talk to the school counslor or my CERT (Chistian Education Relese Time) teacher. The fight may happen tomorrow or Friday so I need some advise asap.
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MelSue -
Forum Administrator
Record Book
Metamora, Illinois
| | 11/14/2007 10:53 PM |
| stubs,
In My Opinion, I think you have shown good restraint to not fight. There are many nation wide new school rules concerning harassment against what this guy is doing to your g/f. I would tell and also have your g/f or anyone else who has witnessed him doing this to any school officials who will listen and take actions against what he is doing. If this does not get results, you might call the police and ask them for advice. I would not fight and risk your education. May I ask how old you are? | |
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jkoehler -
Forum Moderator
Record Book
Kansas
| | 11/14/2007 11:11 PM |
| Posted By MelSue on 11/14/2007 10:53 PM
stubs,
In My Opinion, I think you have shown good restraint to not fight. There are many nation wide new school rules concerning harassment against what this guy is doing to your g/f. I would tell and also have your g/f or anyone else who has witnessed him doing this to any school officials who will listen and take actions against what he is doing. If this does not get results, you might call the police and ask them for advice. I would not fight and risk your education. May I ask how old you are?
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willy -
8-Pointer
Tenn
| | 11/15/2007 11:32 AM |
| listen to mel she is right
I would go to my counslor and ask about sexual harrasment if he it touching her behind | |
Hillbilly Willy
Today is the day the Lord hath made, I will rejoice and be glad in it | |
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tubby -
Record Book
Moundville,Alabama
| | 11/15/2007 1:27 PM |
| | Try to handle it through the school counseler or princepal,but don't let he guy run over you.You are right in wanting to stand up for your girl friend,but I also agree with Melsue. | |
Tubby
The God of My Rock;He Is My Sheild;And The Horn Of My Salvation 2 Samuuel,Ch 22 | |
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wb1921 -
Button Buck
| | 11/15/2007 2:15 PM |
| | sometimes some people just need a good aSS kicking.plain and simple. | | | |
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newhunter -
6-Pointer
Grandville,Michigan
| | 11/15/2007 4:48 PM |
| | Don't fight, by not fighting you will show him and your girl you ARE the bigger person.Go to your counceler. I'm sure your girlfriend would rather you not fight, respecting yourself will prove to her that you can and will respect her. If you choose to fight that might show your girl that fighting is good by your standerds, and that could cost you your relationship. If you explain to your girl that you chose not to fight because you did not want her to get an uneasy feeling about you, she will understand,most likey she will feel better about you and your relationship. | |
      
 
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stubs -
Button Buck
idaho
| | 11/15/2007 8:25 PM |
| Posted By MelSue on 11/14/2007 10:53 PM
stubs,
In My Opinion, I think you have shown good restraint to not fight. There are many nation wide new school rules concerning harassment against what this guy is doing to your g/f. I would tell and also have your g/f or anyone else who has witnessed him doing this to any school officials who will listen and take actions against what he is doing. If this does not get results, you might call the police and ask them for advice. I would not fight and risk your education. May I ask how old you are?
i'm 15 and so is she
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go BSU!!!!! | |
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stubs -
Button Buck
idaho
| | 11/15/2007 8:49 PM |
| Posted By MelSue on 11/14/2007 10:53 PM
stubs,
In My Opinion, I think you have shown good restraint to not fight. There are many nation wide new school rules concerning harassment against what this guy is doing to your g/f. I would tell and also have your g/f or anyone else who has witnessed him doing this to any school officials who will listen and take actions against what he is doing. If this does not get results, you might call the police and ask them for advice. I would not fight and risk your education. May I ask how old you are?
we weren't sure if the school officials could really do any thing towards the sexual harrasment because it was after school off grounds so we have only talked to some older friends (like seniors in high school) but even if our school could do something they don't do much about anything until somebody gets beat up | |
go BSU!!!!! | |
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MelSue -
Forum Administrator
Record Book
Metamora, Illinois
| | 11/15/2007 9:04 PM |
| | Off of school grounds.. then I suggest you go to the police and make a formal complaint.. and see if they will listen. Whenever someone is touched and they do not like or want it... on a part of their body that makes them uncomfortable... I am sure the police will lead you in the right direction. | |
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tubby -
Record Book
Moundville,Alabama
| | 11/15/2007 9:05 PM |
| | Go to her parents.I'm sure her parents will take care of things. | |
Tubby
The God of My Rock;He Is My Sheild;And The Horn Of My Salvation 2 Samuuel,Ch 22 | |
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stubs -
Button Buck
idaho
| | 11/15/2007 9:08 PM |
| Posted By newhunter on 11/15/2007 4:48 PM
Don't fight, by not fighting you will show him and your girl you ARE the bigger person.Go to your counceler. I'm sure your girlfriend would rather you not fight, respecting yourself will prove to her that you can and will respect her. If you choose to fight that might show your girl that fighting is good by your standerds, and that could cost you your relationship. If you explain to your girl that you chose not to fight because you did not want her to get an uneasy feeling about you, she will understand,most likey she will feel better about you and your relationship.
i told her today i wasn't gonna fight him and she said that at first when he told her that i was gonna fight him she didn't want to have anything to do with me so while she was ignoring me i had no idea why and i was starting to be more likely to hit him cause i thought he started saying things to her, he did but things like im gonna fight him because i think shes cheating on me with him so i think this has done more for our relationship than it broke us up which is what his sister told me he was trying to do we have had a really tough time over the last month to 1 1/2 months while this was going on i think shes pretty happy with what we did t et through it because starting today he completely left us alone we had no poblems what so ever and we're closer than we were before
so thanx for your help
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stubs -
Button Buck
idaho
| | 11/15/2007 9:12 PM |
| | thanx tubby ill talk to her about going to her parents tomorrow if he starts again | |
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botechboy -
Button Buck
| | 11/17/2007 7:29 PM |
| | your more mature than i was at 15 good job . I would have been in trouble ,again good job and good luck buddy | | | |
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Walter -
4-Pointer
Melvern Kansas
| | 11/18/2007 8:29 PM |
| | You have done the right thing, but and i say this with reserve, the problem person will probably try again, and again just for kicks. He will not rest our stop and respect you untile you show him differnt, and with the experiance's with my 4 kids, im sure he is not the only jerk in your school, or town. Sorry to say this but his family is probably the same as him, as the old saying goes the apple dont fall far from the tree. | |
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stubs -
Button Buck
idaho
| | 11/19/2007 7:15 PM |
| ya im kinda worried about wed. cause i wont be there and she said she doesn't want to be there with just him with out me and his sister (step) told me he's been tossed around by all the family but there's still no reason for this i dont care what he does towards me but he atleast needs to respect her and what she asks him not to do
thanx for all the replies | |
go BSU!!!!! | |
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Walter -
4-Pointer
Melvern Kansas
| | 11/19/2007 7:56 PM |
| | Hang in there buddy, for this to will pass. | |
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AndyC -
4-Pointer
| | 11/19/2007 10:36 PM |
| If he keeps touching your girlfriend then tell her to tell her parents or school conselor. That would be one solution and probably the best so you don't get in any trouble or your butt kicked.
However, sometimes you have to stand up for yourself. Its less about him grabbing her and more about him doing it with you around...probably just some sort of jerk who is trying to start trouble b/c he is a little bigger than you.
Next time you see him tell him (don't ask) not to do it and tell him that there will be consequences if it happens again. Then he will probalby get up in your face and maybe shove you are push you in the chest. When he does...and if (but he probably will) just punch him stright in the nose or chin with all you got! Try to do it with some other people around so that everyone can tell other kids at school what happened and that he was picking on you first. You might then to get a few lumps but it probably won't be that bad.
Fighting sucks...but sometimes you have to stick up for yourself and be ready for the consequences. | | | |
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Kmehaffey -
Spike
Millersville Pa.
| | 11/19/2007 10:40 PM |
| stubs
regardless of what your classmates my say,It takes a bigger man to walk away from a fight ,than stand there and slug it out! go through the proper channels to get this resolved! DONT FIGHT ,Its just not worth it,you could end up with a police record,and that could cause you Not to be accepted into college,I speak from experience.DONT FIGHT!!!!!!!!! | | | |
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AndyC -
4-Pointer
| | 11/19/2007 10:43 PM |
| Remeber to have plenty of other boys around. Hopefully ones that are friendlier with you then him in case he start kick'in your butt. they will break it up really quickly but they will also remember that you mean business.
Also...how much bigger then you is this guy? If he is too big then it would best to probably just take his crap and try to avoid him. I once whacked a 315 pound offensive linemen and he kicked to crap out of me. I probalby should have just let that one go in hindsight. Maybe even talk to a trusted teacher about the situation...he might tell you to confront the guy and then break it up real quick for you. Maybe a sports coach or something?
Good luck!! | | | |
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